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Step 3: What To Do If Your Bisexual Husband Is Cheating On You

Once you know that your husband is bisexual, and if he is currently cheating on you, there are a few things that you must do.

The first, and most important, is to get yourself to a doctor and get checked for STDs, including HIV.  Even if you don’t think that your husband is cheating on you, you do need to take this precaution, because he probably has been intimate with another man at some point in time.

Most bisexual men, even those married to someone they love and are devoted to, will have sex with another man as a way of confirming their bisexuality, even if they are not interested in an affair.  In many ways this is even more dangerous health-wise, because of the kind of person they would have likely have found to have sex with.

The second thing you need to do, is to come to a decision about where you are going to go from here.  You have three choices:

1. Get a divorce.
2. Live with it.
3. Change the situation.

If you thought that the only choices were 1 and 2, you’re not alone.  Most women assume that if their husband is bisexual, then he will never change and they either have to chose between him having sex and loving affairs with other men and watching gay and bi porn online, or going through a painful and embarrassing divorce.

This is totally not true!

Lets go over a few things here.

1. Cheating is cheating.  It doesn’t matter if someone is cheating with someone of the same or opposite sex.  It’s still cheating, and it’s not okay.

2. Bisexuality doesn’t come with special privlages.  We get very nervous when someone says they’re bisexual because we want to be politically correct and we don’t want to step on anyone’s toes.

But bisexual means that a person is sexually attracted to members of both genders, and enjoys sex with both of them.  That’s it.  It doesn’t mean that if someone is bisexual they have to watch bi porn, or sleep with people they’re not married with.  Sure, they might enjoy it, but they don’t have to.

This is the major point here.  When your husband married you, he committed to only being intimate (both sexually and emotionally) with you.  That means that if he always had a thing for Asian girls and you’re not, he has to give up on that dream.  That means that if he fantacises about big, beautiful breasts, and you had a double mastectomy, he needs to move past that desire, and make love to you, the way you are.  And no porn either.

And that also means that if he really enjoys sex with men, and he decided to marry a woman, or he realized after 15 years of marriage that he’s lusting after men and never got to experience that, well, then… sorry Charlie.  Marriage is a committment and it means committing to another person totally, even if that means sacrificing some other things that you might really, really want.

If you think about it from this perspective, then you’ll come to an understanding that your husband’s bisexuality doesn’t mean that you have to live in misery or get divorced.

If you can move past your feelings of pain and betrayal, you CAN save your marriage.  It will take work, and lots of discussion, and you are both going to have to make changes, but you can do it.

Let’s talk about how.